Grief, Mourning, Legacy, Recovery

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3 months ago

Grief Recovery Newsletter by Patricia D. Freudenberg

Although grief is not linear, there is value in bringing awareness to a certain order, Grief, Mourning, Legacy, Recovery. This is not a formula, it is a framework, one that can help us stay in alignment for peace of mind, body, and soul while living a life to be remembered.

Personal Reflections

When I share content to raise awareness, I often place these words in this order. Why, because grief is what comes first. It is the natural response to loss. And while the steps of grief are not sequential, when we can recognize this truth and step into an awakened state of awareness, we begin to navigate the journey more consciously.

We may go through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Some find meaning in time. And as I emphasize in my work, there is also legacy, what I see as the light at the end of the tunnel.

But here is the key, conscious behavior takes effort. It literally burns calories in our brain power. Yet this is the foundation of building new habits. When we practice awareness, what I call habit stacking, we create new internal conditions. And by “conditions,” I do not mean controlling what is outside of us. I am talking about cultivating our inner world, mind, body, and soul.

Even in the most delicate time, like the first year of grief, this heightened awareness matters. For example, denial may feel contradictory, but simply noticing a red flag, like when someone says something you cannot see yet, can help you realize, I may be in denial right now. The same goes for anger. The goal is not to suppress anger, but to remain mindful so it does not lead to harmful consequences for yourself or others.

Grief varies so much from person to person, but awareness gives us a compass.

Mourning as the Sweet Spot

What fascinates me most is how often people forget that mourning is what we do in our grief. Mourning is an action word.

This is the sweet spot where we can take matters into our own hands. Mourning can look like reliving the devastating thoughts over and over, which keeps us in a low vibration, or it can look like choosing actions that lift us up. We can celebrate a life, share stories, create a new ritual, or honor an anniversary with meaning rather than only sorrow.

Crying can be part of this. Crying is not “bad”, it is often the evidence of release. But when crying feels heavy because it keeps you stuck in thoughts that do not serve you, that is when it is time to shift. To cry as a release is healing. To cry from despair is draining. In mourning, we get to choose which path to lean into.

Legacy and Recovery

When we give ourselves permission to talk about our loved ones, to laugh, to live, and to be true to ourselves in spite of loss, we begin to step into legacy. Legacy is healing. Legacy is permission to carry love forward.

And this leads us into recovery. Recovery does not mean forgetting. It means rising. It is reaching the top of the mountain, metaphorically, with peace in mind, body, and soul. And here is the gift, once you have traveled this path, when life strikes again, as it inevitably will, you now carry a roadmap. A way back to recovery.

Quote of the Day

“Awareness is the roadmap from grief to growth, it not only guides us through loss, it empowers us to rise in legacy.” -Patricia D. Freudenberg

Closing Thought

Grief, Mourning, Legacy, Recovery is not a straight line, it is a circle of awareness. Each step, revisited again and again, strengthens your inner world. In that strength, you find not only survival, but the path to living a life remembered.

Reflection Prompt: Which stage speaks most to you right now, and how might you honor it in a way that lifts your mind, body, and soul?

Book Recommendation

Live Your Legacy: A New Spin on Mourning by Patricia D. Freudenberg

A guide to understanding grief in its many dimensions, and discovering the transformative power of legacy, the light at the end of the tunnel.