Written by Patricia D. Freudenberg
Are You Giving Yourself Space?
Grace is an unearned, unconditional love that transcends circumstances. It is not dependent on merit or reciprocation. It simply is. Grace does not seek out worthiness. It exists freely, offering acceptance without judgment.
From a Christian perspective, grace is God’s unwavering gift to those who could never earn or repay it. Yet grace is not limited to theology. It shows up in how we speak to ourselves, how we pause, and how we allow ourselves to simply be human.
In life, we are often generous with grace toward others. We listen. We forgive. We hold space. And yet, when it comes to ourselves, we rush, we criticize, we push through. This is where space becomes grace.
The Science Behind Grace and Space
Space is not avoidance. It is a regulation.
When we allow ourselves room to breathe, pause, and reflect, we are practicing self-compassion while engaging a biological reset that benefits the entire system.
Under stress or distress, the body activates the fight or flight response. Blood flow shifts away from vital organs, including the brain, and moves toward the extremities. This response is designed for short-term survival. When prolonged, it can impair emotional regulation, decision-making, immune function, and cardiovascular health.
Research has shown that chronic stress significantly impacts cognitive function and overall well-being.
When we intentionally give ourselves space, we allow the parasympathetic nervous system, the body’s rest and digest mode, to activate. This supports healing, improves digestion, stabilizes heart function, and restores mental clarity. Stillness is not passive. It is corrective.
A New Slate: The Power of Resetting
An object in motion stays in motion. Thoughts do too.
If your emotions are spiraling in a direction that no longer serves you, you are not powerless. Pausing is not a weakness. It is wisdom. Space interrupts momentum and creates a reset point.
So I ask again, gently and honestly:
Are you giving yourself space?
In the same way we create space for others to heal, grow, and be heard, we must extend that same grace inward. When life feels overwhelming, pause. Let grace enter. Whether sitting with others or sitting with yourself, space creates room for healing. Grace allows without judgment.
Quote of the Day
“Space is not the absence of effort. It is the presence of grace.”
Patricia D. Freudenberg
Book Recommendation
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Reflection
Where in your life are you rushing when what you truly need is space?
What would it look like to offer yourself grace in that moment?
Sit with it. Write it out. Let the answer arrive without force.
Closing Thoughts
This message is not medical advice. It is an invitation.
As a certified End-Of-Life Consultant, I witness the profound impact that self-compassion, stillness, and grace have on emotional well-being. Giving yourself space is not indulgent. It is essential.
Grace meets us when we stop running. Space gives it somewhere to land.
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