Grief Recovery Through Legacy
by Patricia D. Freudenberg
Observation is quite an interesting thing, especially in the midst of hardships—and in this case, grief.
Observation can only truly exist in the first person. Yes, you can listen to other people’s observations and perspectives, but at the end of the day, even those are determined by you, the observer, the knower.
Where am I going with this?
Well, in my journey of reading multiple inspirational books, there’s a common thread I want to share here: mindset and mental wellness. Your truth lies in your opinion. And this is in regard to observation.
Now, that’s a hard concept to grasp when you’re dealing with grief, because, as a reader, you may be saying:
“What is she talking about? A fact is a fact. If my loved one passed, that’s not just an opinion.”
And you’re absolutely right. That fact stands firm. But if you stop there, you’re missing the heart of this message. I’m talking about how you look at things from where you are, with the circumstances you have.
Are you looking at it from despair, or are you looking at it as part of your journey?
Let’s get real. Another fact is that we all have an expiration date. I’m not here to be penny-dreadful—I’m here to remind you that if you’re reading this, God bless you—you are still in the land of the living.
And I’m here to redirect your focus from the lowest vibration known to mankind, which is grief. According to research cited by Stanford University, the emotional frequencies of grief, depression, fear, and powerlessness rank among the lowest vibrational states, making recovery and vitality harder to achieve when we remain there.
As an end-of-life coach, I’m here to remind you:
✅ You are worth living. ✅ You are still the observer. ✅ You can choose your observation.
Even if, early on, this is not comprehensible, you are still the observer. How are you observing this moment in your life?
Are you observing this as a chapter in your life, taking with you the treasures of precious memories? Or are you sitting only in the devastation?
It’s okay to be in that pain. But staying there too long is when it no longer serves you.
This is my truth. These are my observations. And I challenge you to shift your point of view if it’s not feeling good to your spirit.
I am not minimizing loss—loss hurts. But I want to emphasize living a life to be remembered—yours and theirs—through legacy.
Reflection Prompt
Take a quiet moment today and ask yourself:
“If I am the observer of my life, how can I look at this moment differently to honor both my grief and my growth?”
Quote of the Day
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” — Anaïs Nin
Recommended Reading
If you’re ready to begin the journey of living a life to be remembered, I invite you to read my book:
Live Your Legacy: A New Spin on Mourning A gentle grief recovery guidebook, easy to digest with journaling prompts to help you take the first steps toward emotional healing.
Available on Amazon
With Respectful Compassion
Patricia D. Freudenberg Certified End-of-Life Coach | Author | Founder & CEO of Miss-U-Gram® | miss-u-gram.com
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