OUCH. THEN WHAT?

Grief Recovery Newsletter 

Written by Patricia D. Freudenberg,

When Emotional Pain Becomes Physical

Ouch.
It’s a small word, but it can echo loudly through our hearts. Grief doesn’t just affect the mind—it affects the body, too. That sinking feeling in your chest, the fatigue, the knot in your stomach—these are all very real physical manifestations of emotional pain.

So yes, ouch—it really does hurt.
But then what?

The Turning Point: From Pain to Perspective

Sometimes, the pain comes not just from the missing, but from the reaction—our own or someone else’s. A cold shoulder. A careless comment. Silence when you needed words.

And again: ouch.

But here’s the key: we get to decide what happens next.

We can stay in the sting, replaying the moment over and over—or we can ask ourselves a powerful question:
Then what?

That single shift in mindset can be transformational. We aren’t denying the pain—we’re acknowledging it, honoring it, and then choosing not to live there.
We allow the pain to be a wake, not a destination.

Let it float.
Let it sting.
Let it pass.
Then—let it go.

Self-Discovery Prompt

What would it look like if you mapped your pain and your path?

If you wrote down your “OUCH moments” on one side of a page…

And on the other, the “THEN WHAT” direction you wish to go…

Where would your soul begin to lead you? 

“The moment you stop staring at the wound and start walking toward the light, healing begins.”
— Patricia D. Freudenberg

Research Insight

Modern brain imaging studies reveal that emotional pain activates many of the same regions in the brain as physical pain—most notably the anterior cingulate cortex. This overlap explains why heartbreak can feel like a real wound.
Researchers at institutions like Stanford University continue to affirm that mindfulness, intention, and cognitive reframing can significantly help regulate these responses. The brain is capable of rewiring how we respond to emotional triggers—empowering us to choose recovery over reactivity.

📘 Recommended Reading

Live Your Legacy: A New Spin on Mourning
An easy-to-digest, 40-page guide filled with practical grief tools, healing perspectives, and journaling prompts.
Because grief is already overwhelming—your recovery guide shouldn’t be.
➡️ Available now on Amazon:

Final Thought

If your heart is hurting today, know this:
You don’t have to stay in the ouch. You can choose your direction.
You can create new energy.
You can rewrite your reaction into resilience.

Your life.
Your legacy.
Your hands.

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Founder & CEO of Miss-U-Gram®
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